Intentions | Why I'm terrified of mediocrity

And why you might be too


I think the last thing I want to do in this blog is to tell you how to live.  I know that this is one of those cardinal rules of being a therapist – don’t give advice.  However, when I see something over and over again that is killing relationships and ruining families and sabotaging lives, I think I need to say something.

 

I believe that mediocrity is one of the most dangerous things in our world today.  And here’s why:

 

1.  The very definition of mediocrity says it all:  “not very good,” “average,” “uninspired,” “indifferent,” “forgettable.”  Mediocrity is the pull to settle for what is good enough – what isn’t bad enough to be a real problem, but what isn’t great and excellent (which often require a lot of hard work and effort).

 

Mediocre says that the relationship you’re in is “ok” or “tolerable” or “better than being alone.”  Mediocre is the family that survives a busy schedule and a jam-packed day, just to wake up and do it all over again.  Mediocre is the person who waits around for the good things in life and finds enough distraction to pass the time.

 

2.  Mediocrity doesn’t alert us to do anything different; it lulls us to sleep.  When we find ourselves in a crisis or a really difficult place in life, oftentimes that’s when we take action.  When we feel fulfilled and inspired and challenged and affirmed, oftentimes that’s when we desire to keep heading in that direction.

 

But mediocrity is the powerful lullaby that tells us life won’t get any better, can’t get any better, so just settle in for the ride and find a way to get by day to day.

 

I want something more than that:  for myself, my family, my clients, my friends.  Want to come along with me?

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