Letting Go | Confessions of a Holder of Expectations

What I Did + Didn't Think This Would Be About


 Several months ago, I decided on this particular blog theme and topic and now that I sit here writing it, I am at an unexpected loss for words.

 

My plan wasto share all about the damaging effects that other people’s expectations can have upon you, especially if you ingest those as gospel truth.  My plan was to offer a few relevant, insightful suggestions about how to shrug off and let go of living according to someone else’s “shoulds” and standards for what life is supposed to be about.

 

My plan wasn’tto share all about the ways that other people’s expectations still plague me like gnats that buzz around your ears.  My plan wasn’t to admit that I am as much in need of those relevant, insightful suggestions as I think others might be.

 

My plan wasn’tto acknowledge that I doubt myself, my work, my abilities or my importance, on a nearly daily basis.  My plan wasn’t to say that I often succumb to believing that how others live and structure their lives must inform my own, and that if I dare do something different, then somehow there’s something wrong with me.

 

I guess I had my own expectations for myself, in how I would share with you about the triumph of letting go of expectations.

 

But somehow the honesty might be exactly what we need to let go of what we think we should be doing, and actually live into what we know is genuine, meaningful and important.

 

In this with you,

Alair

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