Therapy is an unfamiliar process for many, so I thought I'd share some of the most common questions I hear when folks are interested in working with me. I'm glad you asked!
I firmly believe that therapy is successful when you are ready to engage in the process and when you find a compatible therapist. When considering working with me, I encourage you to ask:
1. Do I want to begin therapy? (Not, “Would so-and-so be pleased if I started?” or “I should start working on my issues.”), and
2. Does Alair seem like the best fit for me?
While I can’t answer #1 for you, I can certainly help with #2. I offer complimentary 30-minute consultation sessions so that you can meet me, get to know more about the work I do and see if I am a good fit for you.
While every therapy process looks different, there are a few factors that can help us understand how long this process might last:
I may not be the first therapist you’ve reached out to for help. You may feel like you’ve exhausted all of your options, energy and effort, and are struggling to believe that anything else could help. While I don’t claim to have a “magic fix” for your situation, I can reassure you that I will consistently offer:
For a long time, the therapy office has been quite taboo and mysterious. While some might think that seeking therapy support equals “weakness” or “being crazy,” I believe that therapy is one avenue that can bring new perspective, new tools and new hope for getting unstuck. When we find ourselves immersed and overwhelmed by life’s struggles, I believe that we need others to help us out. My role as a therapist is to walk alongside you as we find our way out of the chaos and build a new "home" for you and yours.
From our very first session, we will be talking about our last session. I don't believe therapy must last forever, nor do I believe that therapy is a quick-fix. Throughout our time together, I will check in with you to see if we are addressing the reasons why you came to see me in the first place, and whether or not you are experiencing growth and change.
As time goes on, you'll need to meet with me less and less often. There will come a point where you may be ready to take a break or stop therapy altogether, because you feel confident in the "new home" we've created. Even then, you can always come back to work with me for any length of time - I'll still be there to walk alongside you.