Books & Articles


As part of my practice's value of wholeness, I often recommend additional resources to review on your own that will support the work we are doing in therapy.  These are some of my favorites.

For Couples

  • The Five Love Languages; Dr. Gary Chapman
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Dr. Sue Johnson
  • Love and Respect:  The Love she Most Desires, the Respect he Desperately Needs; Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • The Sacred Search:  What if it's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?; Gary L. Thomas (for pre-married couples)
  • Sacred Marriage, Gary L. Thomas
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver
  • When Sorry Isn't Enough:  Making Things Right with Those You Love; Dr. Gary Chapman & Jennifer Thomas
  • You and Me Forever:  Marriage in Light of Eternity; Francis Chan and Lisa Chan

For Parents

  • Brainstorm:  The Teenage Brain from the Inside Out; Dr. Dan Siegel
  • The Five Love Languages of Children; Dr. Gary Chapman & Dr. Ross Campbell
  • Hold on to Your Kids:  Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers; Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor Mate
  • How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk; Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
  • Mom's House, Dad's House:  Making Two Homes for Your Child; Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
  • Parenting from the Inside Out:  How a Deeper Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive; Dr. Dan Siegel & Mary Hartzell
  • Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child:  The Heart of Parenting; Dr. John Gotten
  • The Whole-Brain Child:  12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind; Dr. Dan Siegel & Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

For Kids & Teens

  • Dinosaurs Divorce:  A Guide for Changing Families; Laurie Krasney Brown & Marc Brown
  • Divorce is Not the End of the World:  Zoe and Evan's Coping Guide for Kids; Zoe & Evan Stern
  • The Hurt; Teddi Doleski
  • In My Heart:  A Book of Feelings; Jo Witek
  • A Terrible Thing Happened; Margaret Holmes
  • When Mom and Dad Separate:  Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief From Divorce; Marge Heegaard

For Personal Growth

  • Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  • The Gift of Being Yourself:  The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery; David Benner
  • The Gifts of Imperfection; Brene Brown
  • Safe People:  How to Find Relationships That Are Good For You and Avoid Those That Aren't; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

For Helping Professionals

  •  Raising Parents:  Attachment, Representation, and Treatment; Patricia McKinsey Crittenden
  • The Body Keeps the Score:  Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma; Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
  • The Wounded Healer:  Ministry in Contemporary Society; Henri J.M. Nouwen
  • Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice:  A Workbook; Lynn Grodzki
  • Windows to Our Children; Violet Oaklander, Ph.D.

Come on in- how can I help?

Some different options about where we can start

Couple's Therapy

 

Understanding why we are disconnected and alone, and creating new ways of being with each other

Individual Therapy

 

Letting go of what needs to be released and discovering what needs to be found

Family Therapy

 

Learning new ways to care for family, and for kids and teens to share with their parents

 

Play Therapy

 

Helping kids explore and put words to their own world



sit and stay a while

Some thoughts I share on "Rooted + Grounded"

 

 

The New Normal | Do I Want to Go Back?

 

 "Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." - Rumi


in the neighborhood

Some helpful resources in the nearby and virtual community

Special Needs Resource Foundation

of San Diego

Summer Camps + Enrichment Programs

 

Check out this list of 40+ camps (all over San Diego, California and the US), focused specifically on including kids with physical, mental and/or emotional support needs.


 

Alair Olson, M.A.

 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT#86504)

858.634.0302 | therapy@alairolson.com