Books & Articles


As part of my practice's value of wholeness, I often recommend additional resources to review on your own that will support the work we are doing in therapy.  These are some of my favorites.

For Couples

  • The Five Love Languages; Dr. Gary Chapman
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Dr. Sue Johnson
  • Love and Respect:  The Love she Most Desires, the Respect he Desperately Needs; Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • The Sacred Search:  What if it's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?; Gary L. Thomas (for pre-married couples)
  • Sacred Marriage, Gary L. Thomas
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver
  • When Sorry Isn't Enough:  Making Things Right with Those You Love; Dr. Gary Chapman & Jennifer Thomas
  • You and Me Forever:  Marriage in Light of Eternity; Francis Chan and Lisa Chan

For Parents

  • Brainstorm:  The Teenage Brain from the Inside Out; Dr. Dan Siegel
  • The Five Love Languages of Children; Dr. Gary Chapman & Dr. Ross Campbell
  • Hold on to Your Kids:  Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers; Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor Mate
  • How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk; Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
  • Mom's House, Dad's House:  Making Two Homes for Your Child; Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
  • Parenting from the Inside Out:  How a Deeper Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive; Dr. Dan Siegel & Mary Hartzell
  • Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child:  The Heart of Parenting; Dr. John Gotten
  • The Whole-Brain Child:  12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind; Dr. Dan Siegel & Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

For Kids & Teens

  • Dinosaurs Divorce:  A Guide for Changing Families; Laurie Krasney Brown & Marc Brown
  • Divorce is Not the End of the World:  Zoe and Evan's Coping Guide for Kids; Zoe & Evan Stern
  • The Hurt; Teddi Doleski
  • In My Heart:  A Book of Feelings; Jo Witek
  • A Terrible Thing Happened; Margaret Holmes
  • When Mom and Dad Separate:  Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief From Divorce; Marge Heegaard

For Personal Growth

  • Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  • The Gift of Being Yourself:  The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery; David Benner
  • The Gifts of Imperfection; Brene Brown
  • Safe People:  How to Find Relationships That Are Good For You and Avoid Those That Aren't; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

For Helping Professionals

  •  Raising Parents:  Attachment, Representation, and Treatment; Patricia McKinsey Crittenden
  • The Body Keeps the Score:  Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma; Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
  • The Wounded Healer:  Ministry in Contemporary Society; Henri J.M. Nouwen
  • Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice:  A Workbook; Lynn Grodzki
  • Windows to Our Children; Violet Oaklander, Ph.D.

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In the neighborhood...

Raising Emotionally Healthy Children | Grace Church MOMS Group

September 12th, 9:30-11:30am

 

I have the privilege of sharing with a group of moms with young children, exploring together what it means to help our children grow into emotionally healthy people.


Around town...

"Impulsive Behavior Linked to Sleep and Screen Time"

Science News

 

A new article suggests that children and youth who do not sleep enough and use screens more than recommended are more likely to act impulsively and make poorer decisions.


 

Alair Olson, M.A.

 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

(MFC#86504)

 

South Mission Valley | San Diego, CA  92108

858.634.0302 | therapy@alairolson.com