Books & Articles


As part of my practice's value of wholeness, I often recommend additional resources to review on your own that will support the work we are doing in therapy.  These are some of my favorites.

For Couples

  • The Five Love Languages; Dr. Gary Chapman
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Dr. Sue Johnson
  • Love and Respect:  The Love she Most Desires, the Respect he Desperately Needs; Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • The Sacred Search:  What if it's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?; Gary L. Thomas (for pre-married couples)
  • Sacred Marriage, Gary L. Thomas
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver
  • When Sorry Isn't Enough:  Making Things Right with Those You Love; Dr. Gary Chapman & Jennifer Thomas
  • You and Me Forever:  Marriage in Light of Eternity; Francis Chan and Lisa Chan

For Parents

  • Brainstorm:  The Teenage Brain from the Inside Out; Dr. Dan Siegel
  • The Five Love Languages of Children; Dr. Gary Chapman & Dr. Ross Campbell
  • Hold on to Your Kids:  Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers; Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor Mate
  • How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk; Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
  • Mom's House, Dad's House:  Making Two Homes for Your Child; Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
  • Parenting from the Inside Out:  How a Deeper Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive; Dr. Dan Siegel & Mary Hartzell
  • Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child:  The Heart of Parenting; Dr. John Gotten
  • The Whole-Brain Child:  12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind; Dr. Dan Siegel & Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

For Kids & Teens

  • Dinosaurs Divorce:  A Guide for Changing Families; Laurie Krasney Brown & Marc Brown
  • Divorce is Not the End of the World:  Zoe and Evan's Coping Guide for Kids; Zoe & Evan Stern
  • The Hurt; Teddi Doleski
  • In My Heart:  A Book of Feelings; Jo Witek
  • A Terrible Thing Happened; Margaret Holmes
  • When Mom and Dad Separate:  Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief From Divorce; Marge Heegaard

For Personal Growth

  • Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  • The Gift of Being Yourself:  The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery; David Benner
  • The Gifts of Imperfection; Brene Brown
  • Safe People:  How to Find Relationships That Are Good For You and Avoid Those That Aren't; Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

For Helping Professionals

  •  Raising Parents:  Attachment, Representation, and Treatment; Patricia McKinsey Crittenden
  • The Body Keeps the Score:  Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma; Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
  • The Wounded Healer:  Ministry in Contemporary Society; Henri J.M. Nouwen
  • Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice:  A Workbook; Lynn Grodzki
  • Windows to Our Children; Violet Oaklander, Ph.D.

Rooted & Grounded

 

 

New on the blog:

Authenticity | A Guide for Reflecting on 2019

 

 How can we look back

to helps us as we look ahead.


In the neighborhood...

 

Raising Emotionally Healthy Children | January 13th, 2020

Point Loma Presbyterian Church Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) Group

 

I'm grateful for the opportunity to spend time with moms of young kids and explore different ways that we can help cultivate emotional health in our children.


Around town...

"Screen-based media associated with structural differences in brains of young children"

Science Daily 

 

"A new study documents structural differences in the brains of preschool-age children related to screen-based media use. The study, published in JAMA Pediatrics, shows that children who have more screen time have lower structural integrity of white matter tracts in parts of the brain that support language and other emergent literacy skills. These skills include imagery and executive function — the process involving mental control and self-regulation. These children also have lower scores on language and literacy measures."


 

Alair Olson, M.A.

 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

(MFC#86504)

 

South Mission Valley | San Diego, CA  92108

858.634.0302 | therapy@alairolson.com