In couple's therapy, I walk alongside you and your partner in understanding why you often find yourselves stuck in the same patterns of frustration, arguments and disconnection. We will also discover and practice new ways to reach out for and lean on each other, even when times get tough.
Have you ever noticed how you and your partner get in the same kind of argument over and over again?
The stuff you're fighting about may be different each time, but generally the fight goes the same way. And you find yourselves going around and around, and not quite sure how to get off
this awful merry-go-round.
I believe that couples get stuck in the same negative patterns because they believe their relationship is threatened, and partners are actually doing
everything they know how to prevent a relationship crisis, failure or break-up. This philosophy comes from my commitment to a particular model of couple's therapy called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and I
use EFT because this model:
When I start working with you and your partner, I like to spend a few sessions getting to know you both.
To start, I will meet with both of you in our initial session. I like to share about the therapy
process and the Emotionally Focused Therapy model. I also want to learn more about your relationship history and what prompted you to reach out to me for therapy
After our first session, I will meet with each of you individually. I like to schedule an individual
session with each of you to spend more time getting to know you and your hopes for your relationship. I also find it helpful to learn about your family background and personal history,
because these factors play an important role in our couple's therapy.
Finally, we will all meet back together. I will share my thoughts and
reflections about why you find yourselves stuck in your negative patterns, and I will offer my suggestions and recommendations about how we can move forward in therapy.
Here are some of the most common challenges that bring couples to me for couple's therapy: