In couple's therapy, I see my role as walking alongside you and your partner as we deconstruct a pattern of conflict that usually ends in frustration and disconnection. Once we understand how this pattern leaves us stuck, we can then create a new pattern of communicating that leaves you closer and more connected.
Have you ever noticed how you and your partner get in the same kind of argument over and over again? The topic you're fighting about may be different
each time, but generally the fight goes the same way. And you find yourselves going around and around, and not quite sure how to get off this awful merry-go-round.
I believe that couples get stuck in the same negative patterns because they believe their relationship is threatened, and partners are actually doing
everything they know how to prevent a relationship crisis, failure or break-up. This philosophy comes from my commitment to a particular model of couple's therapy called
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and I use EFT because this model:
When I start working with you and your partner, I like to spend a few sessions getting to know you both.
To start, I will meet with both of you in our initial session. I like to share about the therapy process and the Emotionally Focused Therapy model. I also want to learn more about your relationship history and what prompted you to reach out to me for therapy support.
After our first session, I will meet with each of you individually. I like to schedule an individual session with each of you to spend more time getting to know you and your hopes for your relationship. I also find it helpful to learn about your family background and personal history, because these factors play an important role in our couple's therapy.
Finally, we will all meet back together. I will share my thoughts and reflections about why you find
yourselves stuck in your negative patterns, and I will offer my suggestions and recommendations about how we can move forward in therapy.
Here are some of the most common challenges that bring couples to me for couple's therapy: