Grieving | A Helpful Tool

"There is no grief like the grief that does not speak."  Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


And the quarantine goes on for another week.

 

From my perspective and experience thus far, it seems like there have been waves of reactions over the course of this quarantine.  Each week seems to bring a new rush, like:

 

·      A wave of panic and anxiety

·      A wave of confusion and scrambling

·      A wave of frustration and annoyance

·      A wave of sorrow

·      A wave of irritation

·      A wave of indifference

·      A wave of “I’m-so-over-this-and-don’t-care-about-wearing-my-mask”

·      A wave of exhaustion and apathy

 

And probably a lot more that I haven’t thought of or heard or experienced.

 

 

Also from my perspective and experience thus far, there’s also been an undercurrent for all of these waves:  grief.

 

 While we looked at grief in a previous post, I thought I’d share a way of processing grief that has been very helpful for me.  (I give all of the credit for this to spiritual directors Sheryl Fleisher and Linsey Wildey)

 

A few notes about how to use this tool:

 

Grief event:  the “grief event” can be a particular event (i.e cancelling an event due to COVID-19) or a time frame/season of life (i.e. the quarantine)

 

Questions:  the questions listed are in relation to the grief event, and some may not be applicable or helpful. 

 

Acceptance:  as we process our emotions and reactions to our grief, we symbolically open our hands and may be able to release certain things we’ve been holding onto for some time.  As we do that, we enlarge our capacity to accept and hold more.  From that place, we are often able to welcome new things into our lives, such as love, joy, etc.

 

 

I hope this could be a helpful way to reflect on and work through the grief that may be coming up during this season and as those different waves come and go.  And as always, I’m here to help too.

 

 With you and for you,

Alair

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Alair Olson, M.A.

 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

(LMFT#86504)

 

South Mission Valley | San Diego, CA  

858.634.0302 | therapy@alairolson.com